Archive for December, 2007

Year-End Wrap Up

December 31, 2007

1) Rang in new year with new distance boyfriend in California

2) Sent out BioWare writing application

3) Started a receptionist temp job after losing full-time job

4) BioWare writing application rejected, rewritten, resubmitted

5) BioWare application rejected… again

6) Quit receptionist temp job

7) Moved to Dayton

8) Turned down job offer that would require me to move back to Chicago

9) Went to Spain

10) Lost my best friend after lying about dumping distance boyfriend

11) Finished and sent out God’s War to a couple agents

12) God’s War was rejected by an agent

13) Got hired as a temp tech writer

14) Went to the emergency room

15) Joined a martial arts gym

16) Got hired as full-time tech writer!

17) Got health insurance!

18) Went to the emergency room (again)!

19) Did some revisions of God’s War for a publisher

20) Broke up with distance boyfriend

21) Went to Switzerland

22) Started dating Dayton boyfriend

23) Went to the emergency room (again)

23) Broke up with Dayton boyfriend

24) Got back together with Dayton boyfriend

25) God’s War got an agent

26) Stopped going to martial arts classes

27) Got new health insurance!

28) God’s War got rejected by first publisher

29) Started a new gym

30) God’s War got submitted to another publisher

31) Went to the beach for Christmas

32) Broke up with Dayton boyfriend (again)!

33) Started a new financial plan that’ll get me a car in a year and a house in two years

34) Signed up for new personal training health & wellness sessions at work

35) Put together a submission package for my Dragon’s War series.

35) Ringing out the old year with roommates. Will probably laugh a whole lot.

Fall down seven times…

You’re going to fall, you’re going to fail. The trick is to learn from your mistakes and not give up. Life is a persistence game. And boy have I been persistent. Maybe stupid. Certainly stubborn. But always persistent.

I’ve laughed a whole lot this year. Cried a lot, too.

But, mostly – laughed.

Keep on keepin’ on.


My Actions Could be Seen as (Offensive)(Annoying)(Selfish)(Hurtful)

December 30, 2007

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Putting it all Together

December 30, 2007

The Old Man and I sat down over my finances today and went over what it’s going to take to get me in a place I’d like to be, financially, by the time I’m 30.

He and Steph are my age and have two cars, a house, an IRA, and money in the bank. I had a great time traveling around the world and getting all these degrees, but the roaring twenties are just about done, and it’s time I focused on getting some of the things I want to have in my 30s. A house, a garden, some money in the bank. Financial freedom. A place to put my books. It takes planning, and hard work. You don’t just wake up one day living the life you want.

Boy, do I know that.

A lot of my whole “where” I’d like to do my life thing depends on if I still have a job in April, but if the job works out, the two year plan that the Old Man and I put together gets me a car in a year and a little house the year after that and pays off all of my staggering credit card debt in about the same amount of time. That’s not factoring in raises or book/freelance writing money.

To be dead honest: it’s not a fun budget. It is not happy in the least. I’ve been working with a budget that makes me happy and comfortable the last few months, but it’s also meant blowing $400 on going out, eating out, coffee, books, and other misc. items.

This budget cuts out prepared meats, expensive cheese, most of the gourmet nuts I eat, and $300 worth of coffee and going-out money. Chipotle money. Ohhhhh… my Chipotle money.

It also means I’m putting nearly half my paycheck toward credit card debt. If I want it paid off in two years and I want a garden of my own, that’s how it has to be.

I hate math.

At the same time, I’m ready to grow up, you know? Pushing thirty, living paycheck to paycheck, even if you’re living quite comfortably, isn’t worth it if you’re still renting out a room somewhere and taking the bus at 30. It’s just not the sexiest thing in the world, and not the life I want to have at 30.

It’s a really tight fucking budget, dammit. There’s going to be a lot of cabbage-eating and tuna fish the next two years.

You have to decide what you want out of life and take the steps neccessary to get there. It’s not always fun, not always easy, and it takes a great deal of courage and discipline, but it’s worth it.

I wanted to make a living as a writer my whole life: right now, I do. I wanted to travel around the world. I have. I wanted to sell books: I’m working on it. I wanted a house and a garden and a couple of dogs. Now I need to build that, too.

Pick what you want, and go there.

Elevator Etiquette

December 30, 2007

Things I Would Like to Do Today

December 30, 2007

Take a spoon, cut out the part of my heart that hurts, and throw it away in the trash.

This is the first relationship that ever ended where I feel that ending it is a really, really bad idea. But it takes two people to manage a relationship. Both people have to be willing to fight for it, and grow up together. I can’t do it by myself. He’s got to meet me halfway, but he’s afraid; afraid of me, of himself, of failure, of what it means if we’re together. And when you’re really terrified, there’s a lot you’ll sacrifice to fear, and all sorts of ways you’ll justify it.

There are a lot of people whose lives are ruled by fear. I know how hard it is to overcome that fear, that lack of faith in one’s self, in other people; fear of failure, fear of life, fear of self and self-doubt, fear of change, fear of what other people think of you and your choices, fear of making big decisions, fear of making mistakes. I used to be that person. I fought a long, hard road to be somebody different. I didn’t like who I was. I didn’t like having a life controlled by my fears.

I’m going to take some time off again from dating, I think. I have a lot of grown-up things I need to accomplish (career(s), house savings, fitness). It’s the cutting away that’s the hardest. I made the Boyfriend a big part of my life. Now I have to take him out of it again and rebuild it.

Spoon to the heart.

Fall down seven times. Get up eight.

Quote of the Day

December 29, 2007

As ever:

“Fall down seven times.
Get up eight.”

It’s how you get through the rough stuff.

Damsels, Reimagined

December 28, 2007

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Holidays With the Hurleys

December 26, 2007

Our annual Chistmas beachtrip commenced once again this year….

Dad, Mom, and my nephew the Cheetoh-head at the Tillamook Cheese Factory. Mmmm cheese.

My sister Jackie-o and the Cheetoh-head.

Great view of Haystack rock from our hotel in Cannon Beach, OR.

My mom, my brother and I pose with our coffees at the Funland gameroom in Seaside.

Don’t feed the birds! View from our hotel balcony. I love this hotel.

Cheetoh-head loves this hotel, too. Even when he’s not feeding the birds…

My sister, nephew, and brother all pretend they like each other. No small feat!

Cheetoh-head cozies up to the scenery at Camp 18, where we stopped for a great Christmas-eve breakfast. Mmmmmm omelettes.

Christmas morning!

You, too, could get your *second* Nintendo DS at four years old (he broke the one he got last year. Yeah. Spoiled Cheetoh-head).

Snow! We got a rare Chistmas-day snow dusting this year. Cheetoh-head loved it! And I thought it was pretty neat too.

Jackie-o and Cheetoh-head enjoy the snow.

The Hurley kids: youngest, oldest, middle.

The Hurley kids and the Cheetoh-head, kickin’ back with the holiday cheer.

Happy holidays to all… and to all a great night.

On a jet plane… With a hipster toy

December 21, 2007

I’m writing this post from the Dayton airport on my new iPod touch. Hell no – I didn’t buy it myself.. I can’t even afford to buy beer. Our exec team handed one of these out to all of us at our holiday lunch yesterday. I’ve never gotten a holiday bomis or gift before. It was incredibly generous and surreal. Sure, I could have used $300 more, but I know my company doesn’t have any cash this time of year, either. Let’s be thankful for small miracles, yo.

Also, this screen does get annoying to type on, but yo, I can watch youtube videos,check my email, and blog all directly from the airport wifi without pulling pit my bulky laptop. It’s pretty slick. Anyway, I’m already delayed into Houston, so it’s fixing to be a long night. Nice to have so many different toys available to pass the time.

Wow, I’m really glad this keyboard screen has an automatic spelling correction feature. Oh wow! It moves the cursor wherever I tap my finger in the post – it moved the cursor there! Mmmmm gadgetry.

Ok, I need a drink. Later, peeps.

One For the Road

December 20, 2007